I harbor no illusions about becoming a very well-known author, or that people will flock to my blog. The reason I know this, is because I don’t like playing by the rules that society or industry sets. I don’t like to be put into a box, not the “Author’s Box” or the “Bloggist’s Box” and told what I must and must not do, think or say.
So, isn’t it disheartening when no one buys my book or visits my website? I suppose, but that is preferrable to receiving hateful feedback. Besides, that is not really why I am doing this writing thing. I know that putting something out into the internet is kind of like whistling in the dark. I also, know that writing is therapeutic for me. Am I talking to myself? If so, then I might be tempted to overshare, I mean if no one but me is going to read it anyway. Right? However, the very fact that someone, even one person might read this makes me try at least, to be somewhat interesting and maybe even coherent. As opposed to just writing in a personal journal.
My father is a dog lover. Growing up as an only child was made easier for him because he had a dog to keep him company. As I grew up, I always wondered if my dad liked dogs more than people. I, however, always preferred cats; and so I was surprised to overhear my dad’s conversation with someone; I can’t remember who it was, but I think it was a guy.
Guy, “I don’t like cats. I prefer dogs.”
Dad, “The thing you gotta remember about cats, is that they are not dogs.”
My father is a pretty smart guy. No, really; he is. I guess wisdom comes with experience, but I tend to believe that my father was smart since the day he was born; however, I am sure that it took him some time to warm up to cats. Maybe from living with me and having to deal with all of my cats (when I was 12, I had 24 of them). Somehow, he learned to appreciate and even love cats, well some cats, maybe not as much as dogs and certainly not instead of dogs; but I truly believe that my father has learned to love cats. It’s just a different kind of relationship. You can’t have the same kind of relationship with your cat as you do with a dog. You can’t have the same expectations from a cat as you do with your dog. Cats satisfy different needs in their owners and they in turn have different needs from those of a dog.
Personally, I think I am both cat and dog lover; because like my father, I have learned to appreciate both types of animals. I have to admit that in a small apartment it is much less hassle to have a cat, though. On a farm, I say let’s have both and maybe some cows and horses, too.
As a reader, I have always felt that the questions, “What is your favorite genre? Or which is your favorite author?” were kind of the same as the question, “Are you a cat person or a dog person?”. The questions never seem to grasp the fact that there is no answer possible. At least not for a thinking and feeling person. You love each differently, with a different part of your brain and heart. This is no either/or, there is only love or dislike. I don’t love all cats, even though I am a cat person. My father doesn’t like all dogs, even though he is a dog person. I don’t like every single book by any particular author. I love some of my favorite authors’ books and MEH others. I probably like at least one book in each genre, well at least the most commonly known ones.
The thing about most readers, is that if you are reading for the mystery or suspense, maybe you won’t appreciate a little romance thrown into the mix. However, if you are reading romance, you don’t usually mind a little suspense or drama thrown in. I think romance readers are more versatile and open to new plots. As long as there is a good romance thrown in, we pretty much will read any genre out there. Well, some of us anyway. I like books that mix everything together, as long as the romance is clean and there is no stupid misunderstandings or one person is keeping a secret from their love interest (that I can’t stand). I love when the conflict is outside of the relationship and the couple has to work together to overcome it. In fact, I find that many times suspense or mystery can be quite good for romance.